Some women want a fully committed, long-term, monogamous relationship with a fellow, whereas I just want a delicious man I can truly vibe and connect with (regardless of the duration) which is so rare for me to find.
One who shares the same values, has integrity, is thoughtful, kind and respectful, is expansive enough to make room for all of me (I require a pretty large vessel), one who has goals and ambitions of his own which he prioritizes over everything else (because same), one who is as open, honest and transparent as I am, and one who is not at all surprised that before I can say yes to moving forward with him romantically, we would need to discuss all the terms and conditions ahead of time (specifically mine).
Once I know for sure that we are on the same page, and I know that this is a safe, rational and wise decision for my heart, and he knows that I will only continue as long as our dynamic feels right and it adds to my life and it doesn’t distract from my ultimate goals in life (the biggest one for me), it’s on like Donkey Kong.
I don’t ever need forever with someone else. I’ve got that with myself. I need what’s real and true. I need what feels hella juicy and hella fun and like a full HECK YES for me, on ALL fronts. And that can look like anything.
It can last for a moment, for minutes, for days, weeks, months or years. No matter who crosses our path, we can never know ahead of time how long we’ll continue to grow with one another. The soul just goes where it grows the best regardless of any intentions we set time-wise for its evolution through another being. All we can do is remain true to who we are and trust the choices we make as a result of that alignment.
If I am to be with a man in any capacity, I must feel free, above all things, to be and express myself fully and completely without restriction.
I must know what the fuck is going on every step of the way. Everything must be on the table in plain view so I can decide what I’m willing or not willing to accept for myself, my body and/or my heart.
And because I’ve met a hottie who is down with all of that, I’m down with him. I texted him this morning with my yes since I told him last night after our great two-hour negotiation (high-fives included) that I’d need to sleep on things to make sure it all still felt 100% in the morning. And it does.
So here’s to my version of the perfect relationship. The kind where integrity, respect and open communication are key. Where both people are free to do as they please while honouring the other as much as they honour themselves.
Where a full FUCK YEAH will be required every step of the way.
My kinda heaven.
(Art by @agathesorlet)
“This should be read to every young girl. If all the young girls could follow these standards they would be so powerful and empowered! Thanks for this share. I have 5 girls and a grand daughter I will be sharing this with them.” Leslie Vanderwelle Bolduc
“Mandy, you set a beautiful standard and example for every woman (no matter her age!). Integrity, respect and open communication should be the foundation of EVERY relationship a woman is a part of - including the one she has with herself. Thank you for speaking— and living — your truth.” Valerie Beyer
“Mandy, seriously learning to do this. If my heart and soul aren’t screaming FUCK YES! I’m not doing it! See, I’ve learned that my body and heart will say no 1st, gut feeling something doesn’t feel right. It’s my head that will do the “what if” and that’s where I get stuck.” Carmen Cordova
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