All couples have problems.
All people who look outside of themselves for something/anything have problems.
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A Dance So Fluid (Poem)
it was the most natural dance with another
through the other
who is me
a dance so fluid
i didn’t notice the moves
i only felt the dance
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Return To Sender (Mandy Bite)
Everything you want is already at your feet.
If it can’t pass through,
that’s on you.
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Lemon Fire (Mandy Bite)
Taken (Poem)
in Energetics, Linked, Poems, Fellows, SEX
no one’s ever had me
but he’s had more of me
than most
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Red Light (Mandy Bite)
When you deny yourself,
you deny god itself.
#samething
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Standstill (Mandy Bite)
Thrown Off My Game (An Essay)
in Energetics, Essays, Fellows, Lovers, Makin Moves, Triggered, Shit Stack, Death, Linked
if it didn’t destroy me
if parts of me weren’t forced to die
repeatedly
and quite potently
through the is-ness of he and i
there’d be no pull for me to stay
- not with him -
but with all that arises
through the mutual destruction that our interactions bring
this alone is what interests me
because i’m interested in what disturbs me
and i’m interested in the art of becoming less disturbed
by what throws me off my game
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Smizin' (Mandy Bite)
Why would I be less me for anybody?
The more me, the better.
For everybody.
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Sharp; Not Soft (An Essay)
I do the opposite of what they say to do
With a man
As a woman
Whatever the fuck that means
I am sharp
Not soft (and I am - very)
I challenge everything
Until there’s nothing
I don’t let anything go
Until it returns back to zero
(an inside job - read more)
And as he’s said…
I’m relentless
Unyielding
Exacting
Demanding
Militant
Trenchant
Mercurial
And yet…
He’s still here
Right here
Closer than most will ever be (his words)
To me
To themselves
To heaven
To another
Precisely because I do the opposite of what they say to do
With a man
As a woman
Whatever the fuck that means
Why would I be less me for anybody
The more me, the better
For everybody
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Submitting To The Void (Mandy Bite)
Doing The Blessed Thing (An Essay)
you would never…
have to talk about your relationship
have issues in your relationship
have to work on your relationship
#workingonitneverworks
if you were both in complete integrity
and fully in your power already
you’d just be in your relationship
doing the blessed thing
the most natural thing in the world
‘problems’ only arise because you haven’t been speaking / living / being truth
you haven’t been taking full responsibility for your side of the court
you have been looking to, and waiting on, the other for something that’s absolutely not theirs to give
and that accumulation of bullshit creates problems
as it should
not because ‘all couples have problems’
but because ‘all people who aren’t living in integrity and look outside of themselves for something / anything - have problems’
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The Inner Chasm (Mandy Bite)
I don’t care about bridging our divide.
I care about bridging my own.
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The Chasm Between He And I (An Essay)
The chasm between he and I is immense.
Always has been.
Except, of course, when it’s not.
The only thing that has and could ever bridge that incredible divide is pure presence.
No self.
Those rare and delicious moments that he’s described as unimaginable, when both of us are simultaneously present AND absent.
This or nothing.
AND
This because there’s nothing.
Which is why it’s futile to ‘work on’ the so-called relationship.
The only work is HERE; not there.
#remainempty
Within me; not with him.
I don’t care about bridging our divide.
I care about bridging my own.
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What Was That (Mandy Bite)
Downsized (Mandy Bite)
Accumulation doesn’t impress or interest me.
I prefer things light;
not heavy.
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Gotcha (Mandy Bite)
The next one won’t be better.
The same work will meet you there, too.
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The Next Isn't Better (An Essay)
I’d rather do the work within the current dynamic than to swap it out for another (supposedly ‘better’) ride.
The next one won’t be ’better’.
The same work will meet me there, too.
So I do it from exactly where I am and what I find myself in.
The ‘next’ I actually want and crave, arises directly and naturally from that.
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Sweet Dreams (Mandy Bite)
Good Morning (An Essay)
in Energetics, Zero Point, Essays, Linked
It’s about going to bed and waking up empty.
Completely at peace.
Detached from all of it.
Having done whatever was required that day to untangle yourself from whatever web you got yourself into.
It’s about dealing with the inner mess / movement / turmoil until you’re still and empty once again.
Until you stop caring at all.
Not in a heartless way.
In the purest way.
The way you already are underneath all that you are not.
It’s the detachment from caring about what does or doesn’t happen.
What is or isn’t happening.
The sweetest and most natural place to be.
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