Human Dynamics

Breakthroughs Aren't Enough (An Essay)

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Just like you wouldn’t expect one meal to satiate you for a week,

or one shower to keep you clean for a month,

or one workout to keep you fit for life,

or one deep clean of your place to magically make it so that you never need to clean again,

you can’t expect the inner work to take care of itself once-and-for-all just because you had some sort of breakthrough.

It’s a progressive cleaning up.

And you can’t get to the maintenance part until you’ve dealt with all the accumulation.

So yes, it gets ‘easier’ as you chip away at all that you’re not,

but you will never reach a point where you’re done the work and are good-to-go for life.

The work is done for life.

Because there are always more ways and more opportunities to sharpen, to deepen, to expand, to refine.

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About That Coldplay Moment (An Essay)

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Posted by a friend on Facebook:

“You have to wonder why the demise of two families at a Coldplay concert is shared more than the tragedies going on around the world. Such a sad state of the world.”

Her friend chimes in:

“I agree 100%. I also don't find anything funny about it. People's lives have been destroyed by this, and its being treated like a joke?”

My take:

Exposing truth doesn’t destroy families.

It liberates everyone involved.

It was the hiding that was destructive.

Now each person is free to choose.

Also,

everyone laughed because it was comedy gold.

Duh.

It was a moment in time that brought everyone together.

So rare.

Whereas “tragedies going on around the world” are happening 24/7/365.

The comparison is silly.

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People Aren't Here To Understand You (An Essay)

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People aren’t here to understand you.

Nor are you here to be understood.

This doesn’t mean you aren’t, or can’t be, understood.

But it’s not required.

And…

it’s impossible to be fully understood

and seen

by another anyways.

(with one exception)

Slivers?

Absolutely.

The entirety?

Absolutely not.

Not only because most people can’t see straight in the first place,

(their view is skewed by conditioning, filters, judgments, the mind, desires, and other distortions that make it impossible to see themselves, let alone life, the moment or another, purely and accurately, so they have no choice but to view you through the limited lens of themselves)

but also because we are all moving and evolving constellations.

Your loved one may understand this moment’s iteration of you and not the next.

They may be open to you today and closed off to you tomorrow for reasons that have nothing to do with you.

So to base your experience of being / feeling loved on…

being understood by another,

feeling seen by another,

having another human show up in a particular way that hits the spot just right,

on another human at all,

is to put unnecessary weight onto something that isn’t required in the first place.

You don’t need to be understood.

And it’s wonderful when you are.

And…

by the time you don’t actually care about being seen or understood,

and you *are* seen and understood,

it doesn’t impact a thing.

Because it makes no difference at all.

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How Wars Begin (An Essay)

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The ‘state of the world’ is an accurate and perfect out-picturing of the individual’s war within themselves.

So to be surprised by anything going on ‘out there’, especially when you’ve yet to contend with what’s going on ‘in here’, is kind of silly.

How could you expect or want peace in the world if you can’t even generate it within?

It starts and ends with you, boo.

It starts and ends with me, too.

But also,

there is no start and there is no end.

There is only what IS for infinity.

And if you’re fighting the is-ness of life,

yourself,

or another…

surprise, bitch.

That’s how wars begin.

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Don't Get Tricked By The Flashing Lights (An Essay)

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“We’ve only just begun.”

“Now more than ever…”

“In these challenging times…”

No.

The same shit has been going on, and will continue to go on, for eons.

There is nothing new or groundbreaking or ‘worse than before’ happening.

Except to you / your mind / that mission-based and externals-believing self.

The ‘new’ that you perceive is your own increased awareness.

The lens getting clearer.

You’re seeing through more and more and it feels revolutionary,

(and you position it as such)

but it’s not.

It just is.

And it was before you,

and it will be after you.

The truth has been here this whole time.

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Everything Makes Sense (An Essay)

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When you deliberately play at the energetic level,

when you see beyond the veil and make your moves from there,

you have the ability to look at all things / situations / dynamics retroactively - before you caught on to what you always knew - and you understand exactly what was going on.

You can pinpoint exactly when and why you or another deviated from truth and the natural / inevitable consequences of that choice.

Everything makes sense.

And when you ‘get’ the ‘energetics of dysfunction’ as it were,

that generate and and keep any toxic / twisted system / dynamic in place (which at the most fundamental level is just the deviation from truth),

you can no longer be surprised by anything that happens in the world / between humans / at an individual level.

Because it’s all the same.

And it’s a given that things would unfold as they did and do based on the black and whiteness of energetic truth.

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If You Really Love Me (An Essay)

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Most would rather have another cater / adapt to their dysfunction(s) / delusion(s) than to do the work necessary to correct it themselves.

And most would rather do that for another,

to avoid their own discomfort

of having to take that same level of responsibility

for their own deficiencies.

#letsstaysmalltogether

#fillinthegapsifyouloveme

#thatswhattheycalllove

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The Diagnosis (An Essay)

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The ‘thing’ about a diagnosis / label…

is that it’s a thing.

Which exists only as a concept / ‘reality’ on the level of form.

But beneath and beyond that, is the actual truth.

Free of all concepts / ideas / illusions of constraint.

Free of the need to attach meaning to things.

And free of the necessity to label such things.

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Sharp; Not Soft (An Essay)

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I do the opposite of what they say to do

With a man

As a woman

Whatever the fuck that means

I am sharp

Not soft (and I am — very)

I challenge everything

Until there’s nothing

(an inside job — read more)

And as he’s said…

I’m relentless

Unyielding

Exacting

Demanding

Militant

Trenchant

Mercurial

And yet…

He’s still here

Right here

Closer than most will ever be (his words)

To me

To themselves

To heaven

To another

Precisely because I do the opposite of what they say to do

With a man

As a woman

Whatever the fuck that means

Why would I be less me for anybody?

The more me, the better

For everybody

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Doing The Blessed Thing (An Essay)

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you would never…

have to talk about your relationship

have issues in your relationship

have to work on your relationship

#workingonitneverworks

if you were both in complete integrity

and fully in your power already

#relationshipgoalsamiright

you’d just be in your relationship

doing the blessed thing

the most natural thing in the world

#loveiswhoyouare

‘problems’ only arise because you haven’t been speaking / living / being truth

you haven’t been taking full responsibility for your side of the court

you have been looking to

and waiting on

the other for something that’s not theirs to give

and that accumulation of bullshit creates ‘problems’

as it should and as it must

not because ‘all couples have problems’

but because ‘all people who aren’t living in integrity and look outside of themselves for something / anything’ — have problems

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The Chasm Between He And I (An Essay)

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The chasm between he and I is immense.

Always has been.

Except, of course, when it’s not.

The only thing that has and could ever bridge that incredible divide is pure presence.

No self.

Those rare and delicious moments that he’s described as unimaginable, when we are both simultaneously present AND absent.

This or nothing.

AND

This because there’s nothing.

Which is why it’s futile to ‘work on’ the so-called relationship.

The only work is HERE; not there.

#remainempty

Within me; not with him.

(he is not my business)

Which is why I don’t care about bridging our divide.

I care about bridging my own.

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The Powerless Departure (An Essay)

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I had a close-to-me-for-many-years human attempt to end our relationship.

‘Attempt’ because there’s no such thing as an ending (or a relationship for that matter, but that’s for another day).

And all because they couldn’t figure out how to use me and our experience to erect themselves further.

So they collapsed (and not in the hot way)

once again / for now / forever / who cares.

Which means they didn’t actually ‘leave’.

And they didn’t achieve a thing.

Because there was zero power in their so-called split.

They ‘left’ (collapsed) instead of saying / doing / BEING the truest thing.

The rawest thing.

That would shatter everything.

In both themselves and in me.

But that would have required them to stand firm and fully in who they truly are.

And they were not ready for that, at least not that day.

So they ‘left’ without shifting a thing.

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