Breaking Boundaries
Raw Dogging Life (An Essay)
Others can point to IT.
Be a demonstration of IT (at best).
But the IT you seek comes from one thing only:
daring to be present enough in your own experience (no matter what it contains) to do the actual work of facing, feeling and seeing right through whatever shit is in the way of your heaven.
Raw-dogging life.
No buffer.
It’s as simple and as hard as that.
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The Unwritten Tagline (An Essay)
The unwritten tagline of most coaches:
“I’ll take you to a place I haven’t even dared to go myself and I’ll use a bunch of words and embellishments and contrived positioning to convince you that I’ve got whatchu need and you’ll buy it because you can’t yet discern between what I’m saying and how I’m actually living / being which is precisely why you’re captivated by my bullshit in the first place. Thank you for your payment.”
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The Helliest Hell There Is (An Essay)
Living inside a NO is one of the helliest hells there is.
It’s a complete mindfuck.
It ensures you’ll continually be, and quite unsuccessfully, managing the content of the experience that you (often regrettably) said yes to, instead of enjoying the magic that’s delivered on the other side of each very exacting and undeniably brilliant NO.
It ensures that the experience you weren’t ever meant to be part of in the first place (cuz your NO fucking told you so), gets messier, uglier, louder and even more distorted and impossible to ‘resolve’, the longer you stay beyond said NO.
And until you recognize and own your original transgression (as well as each subsequent one), you’ll mistakenly point to the other (and what they are or aren’t being or doing), or to the situation itself (and all the ways it fucking blows) for why you’re so unhappy in the experience that YOU said yes to while knowing it was a NO.
You might even feel and begin to act like a victim of circumstance, and you can undoubtedly rally others to support this false narrative, but you knew from the start and you still chose to go so where is the victim in that?
It’s just easier to defer your power and call it by another name than to own it and tell it like it is.
It’s easier to blame your past for what you’re choosing and experiencing in the present than to do what needs to be done.
It’s easier to say yes ‘for’ or ‘because of’ this or that, rather than to honour that exquisite NO and take the imagined risk that such a bold move brings, without knowing why this just isn’t IT.
But you’ll learn soon enough.
You’ll inevitably discover firsthand why your system warned you against what you’re now in the midst of enduring, and are currently, often repeatedly, trying to extract yourself from.
And it’s perfect.
It was unavoidable.
And it’s all by your own design.
Because if you were seasoned enough to not do that wonky thing you do (ignoring what you know), you wouldn’t create these experiences for yourself to learn how not to get to the point where you’re at right now.
So you can’t lose regardless of how lost you feel or what you perceive you’ve lost through each ordeal, because each one effectively shows you where you veered off, and one day you just won’t.
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The Confusing + Captivating Type (An Essay)
Those who are living in integrity with themselves are confusing and / or captivating (at times, even terrifying) to those who are not.
But it’s not because they know something those others don’t.
They’re just doing what most are not yet willing to do.
And until you’re in integrity with yourself, it’s not possible for you to touch what you misperceive those others have access to but you don’t.
So do the fucking work.
The work of actually listening to and honouring yourself.
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Cosmic Cliché (Mandy Bite)
Actions speak louder than words?
Energy speaks louder than both.
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Be More Like Hanna (An Essay)
Yesterday a guy asked me what I do for a living.
Because that’s what typical, boring and conditioned humans ask other typical, boring and conditioned humans.
#cosmicredflag
So I offered my typical response:
“I float through space.”
Because who fucking cares.
Because let’s play elsewhere.
We just met and I’m already bored.
And it made me think of my friend, Hanna.
(A dreamy guest of mine on Mandyland Radio)
Whenever we have a call or check in through message, she asks, “What’s alive in your world?”
And my being just swoons.
Because THAT’s the vibe.
#letsbemorelikehanna
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True Submission (Mandy Bite)
Self Betrayal And The NO (An Essay)
You really can’t override living in a NO.
You either stop doing that or you suffer.
There’s no sorting it out and making it right from within the cage of self-betrayal.
Because the ‘issue’ IS the self-betrayal;
not the actual NO itself.
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We're All Fucked Up (An Essay)
We’re all fucked up.
Who cares?
The human condition(ing) makes it so.
And…
We’re all perfectly intact despite the fuckedupness.
It’s both.
Human + being.
I don’t know one human who actually has all their shit together (whatever that means).
Not one.
But I know that every being exists perfectly and beautifully beyond the human shit.
And that every human touches and experiences even more of their brilliant being, both through and because of it.
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Triggered AF (An Essay)
The other isn’t the reason you get triggered.
Your experience of the other is just showing you where you’re at.
And it’s perfectly highlighting what you’ve yet to contend with.
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Sledgehammer (Mandy Bite)
They’re not against you just because they’re for themselves.
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Twisted Sticky Shit (An Essay)
You can’t have an expectation / demand / condition for how or when another person should behave for or in response to you…
and call that love.
You can’t point to what you’ve done for them (gross) in comparison to what you think they’ve yet to reciprocate (eww) as a way to justify why they should now perform / abandon / contort themselves for you like you clearly did for them (why else would you be keeping score)…
and call that love.
That’s manipulation.
Control.
Twisted, sticky, icky shit.
If it’s not given freely,
truthfully,
lovingly,
unconditionally…
why would you even want it?
You’d rather a performance than the real deal?
You’d rather have it the way your ego scripted it than the way it actually is?
You’d rather another do for you what you’re not willing to do for yourself?
Absurd.
People can move and exist as they wish.
You’re free to do the same.
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Don't Do It (Mandy Bite)
Accelerate The Inevitable (An Essay)
Speed.
Power.
Potency.
Precision.
When we join forces,
I won’t offer tools or processes.
We won’t work on mindset or strategy.
We won’t scour your past for a link to the present.
And you won’t learn how to manage a thing.
Truth requires absolutely no-thing.
It’s time to play a new kind of game.
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Counterfeit vs Real Love (An Essay)
I’ll leave myself to meet you there.
You’ll do the same for me.
vs
I’ll stay right here.
You’ll stay right there.
We’ll dance in the inbetween.
Or not.
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Beneath Your Egoic Conditions (An Essay)
when you
want it
need it
expect it
demand it
even just ask for it
when you feel entitled to it
deserving of it
as if it was owed to you
when you’re keeping score
playing tit for tat
requiring life to meet your egoic conditions
you’ve forgotten who and what you truly are:
an immense power that generates
each perfectly curated piece
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Neglected (Mandy Bite)
Your system inevitably screams NO when you've ignored its multiple whispers.
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Loopty Loop (Mandy Bite)
You can’t ‘heal’ your way out of the illusion that healing is required.
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The Real Teacher (Mandy Bite)
Your existence teaches more than any words or teachings will.
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