Human Dynamics
when it comes to co-creative energetic magic making
if someone claims they need the ‘results’
the numbers
the past or future whatever
to be quantified before choosing
to work and play with you
they aren’t close to being ready
to work and play with you
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Overheard while someone was talking to a friend:
“Yeah, and she said that I’m the kind of person the universe will take care of.”
Implying that there is something outside of us that will take care of some, but not all, and that this care is contingent on the type of person one is.
Oh, and that we aren’t responsible for ourselves and our creations.
Something else is.
Nah.
We are god in the flesh.
We are the universe itself.
There is no separation, except in the mind.
We don’t need to hope or wait or pray to be taken care of by another, or by some external, invisible force.
We each have the power right now to choose.
And ‘Waiting on God’ is waiting on YOU.
Doing something, anything, with the intention, hope and belief that you’ll be seen, favoured, and blessed by the gods (or god itself) is denying the power of YOU.
Nothing is outside of YOU.
YOU are all there is.
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being in your power
in full integrity
in the truth of who you are
naturally activates
and provides a portal for
those who are ready to do the same
so…
you needn’t
(and mustn’t)
move an inch
nor a millimetre
from the depth
and core
of you
to be the perfectly-timed catalyst
the inevitable co-creator
for the ones who dare to free-fall
into the truth they’ve always known
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If neither of you are in your power, it’s not pure, clean love because it’s based on illusion / need / dependency / standards / etc (aka distortions), and not on the truth of each moment / movement, which can only be discerned and honoured from said place of power.
It’s a poor facsimile that doesn’t even come close to the level of intimacy experienced by two people who are truly living in integrity and are thereby (distortion/clutter) free to choose truth in every moment, regardless of the other.
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You can’t ignore, soften, repress or shrink who you are and live an exceptional life.
You can’t shape shift for the world each day and then wonder why you’re depressed, anxious, suicidal, bored or angry.
THAT'S WHY YOU EXPERIENCE THOSE THINGS.
That's your incredibly brilliant system telling you VERY FUCKING CLEARLY that what you think you need to do and who you think you need to be to exist in the world (and with others), is not the answer.
The answer is so fucking simple.
Be YOU. Full out.
Which is the hardest thing
(even if it’s the most natural thing)
for most people to do.
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Someone on the sidewalk screaming to no one in particular and everyone all at once:
“I’m fucking angry and I’m ready! I’m going to kill you all!”
Looks at me:
“Not you. You look beautiful. Have a great day.”
#savedbythesparkles
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another person’s attempt to change you
their desire for you to be less self-expressed
less potent
less YOU
is nothing more than an indication
that they deeply crave to be just as self-expressed
(whatever that looks like for them)
but instead of choosing that for themselves
(which they can do at any time)
they try to diminish it in you
(like they’ve been doing to themselves)
to cope with the pain of that perpetual self-denial
that excruciating and ever-present pain
of rejecting
and denying
the fullness of who they are
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You can feel when you leave yourself for another.
And when they leave themself for you.
The tainted stretch of self-abandonment is palpable.
It feels sticky and icky and gross and not right.
If the energy was a visual, you’d see how unnatural and misshapen it looks.
How unattractive it is.
And how messy and distorted things become when one chooses not to remain in their power.
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Giving someone an ultimatum (an attempt to control, and get your (perceived) needs met through, another) is a misperception that something external to you must change before you can feel a particular way, or do a particular thing, instead of owning your own power and operating / choosing / speaking from there.
This counterfeit method of getting what you think you want will not get you what you actually want (not even close… or even possible from that place), even if the other person chooses to put you before themselves and surrenders to this energetic manipulation.
What you seek and are reaching for is inside of you.
It has nothing to do with another.
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doing something
anything
for or with a person
because you feel guilty or pressured
because you feel bad / sorry / pity for them
because you (mis)perceive they need saving
because you believe it’s your job to ‘help’ them
because you can’t withstand their pain
because ‘it’s just what you do when…’
is not pure
it’s not love
it’s an ulterior motive to ‘get’ something from the experience (validation / purpose / worthiness / love / security etc) and to alleviate the tension inside of you
for your own comfort; not theirs
but when you do something
anything
for or with a person
because it is what you truly want to do
knowing that no one needs saving
knowing that you’re not here to ‘help’ through contrived, measured, self-serving, pat-on-the-back receiving, recordable / postable actions and mindless obedience to the status quo…
but through the raw truth of your being and your devotion to the pulse of YOU (and nothing is more ‘helpful’ than that)
knowing that another person’s pain is not bigger than you
or them
and that it’s not a problem to be fixed
at all
knowing that what you do or don’t do in any given moment is perfect
despite appearances
regardless of convention
no matter how another perceives it
simply because it’s what’s true right now…
then it is clean
then it is love
because it doesn’t require you or another to abandon / shrink / dilute / change / over-extend a thing for the ‘other’,
or to maintain the delusion that such a thing is required to show love or to be loved in the first place
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Dissatisfaction comes from not playing your game at the level you’re here to play with the people you’re here to play with.
It’s your cue that you’re hanging out on a grid that can’t possibly hit your spot.
Because it’s not meant to.
Shrinking and denying who you are and refusing to go where you’re being led should feel uncomfortable and squishy as fuck because it’s not the natural order and it’s not befitting of you.
You are meant to feel the frustration and restriction of choosing something that’s not even close to what you’re capable of enjoying and creating right now.
So jump.
And keep jumping.
No need to stay stuck in the mud.
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The extent of your anger, frustration and resentment towards another, is in direct proportion to the extent you’ve compromised, denied, silenced or abandoned yourself ‘for the sake’ of said person / relationship, which was never required, but chosen, for your perceived benefit (and to your actual detriment); not theirs.
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He and I don’t talk about the energetics.
We live them.
He doesn’t read a word I write.
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In a world of people pleasing, ‘courtesy’, and playing pretend, those who are unwilling to be fake are often seen as rude.
Lacking tact.
Heartless, even.
Truth isn’t the culprit here.
It’s the belief that it needs to be repressed to ‘protect’ others from who we really are, and to ‘protect’ ourselves from their response to who that is.
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If you experience euphoria when and because something happens,
you’re just as susceptible to feeling its opposite in equal measure when and because something else happens.
Because your feelings are based on what happens.
And what happens changes all the time.
Which means your emotional state changes all the time.
So what happens becomes your Master.
And you get a new Master every day.
Maybe even every hour of the day.
But events are not your Master.
People are not your Master.
Feelings are not your Master.
You are the Master of you.
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Deliciousness happens when you move towards the tension.
Power.
Ecstasy.
Freedom.
Truth.
Yet most people do everything they can to avoid it.
It’s dangerous.
It’s uncomfortable.
It’s all too much.
Better to stay safe, comfortable and small than to actually leap into the unknown.
Better to complain.
Better to be bored.
Better to stick with what doesn’t work.
At least there are no surprises there.
Better to blame others,
the government,
the past,
the moon,
for all that’s going wrong.
Better to light up than to feel the tension.
Better to pour one than to feel the tension.
Better to binge than to feel the tension.
Better to overwork than to feel the tension.
Better to act powerless than to feel the tension.
Better to avoid that person, that call, that truth.
Better to lie, to hide, to cheat, to stay.
Better to just remain in the illusion that all is okay.
Anything is better than standing in one’s full power,
in the truth of each moment,
in the endless tension that it brings.
Anything is better than that.
Until it isn’t.
Then you just stop caring.
All the fucks? Gone.
Making others comfortable? Done.
Caring what they think? As if.
Risking it all? No such thing.
There are no risks.
There's nothing to lose.
There's only truth.
There’s only YOU.
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It doesn’t matter who stays.
It doesn’t matter who goes.
But when you make something or someone matter,
when you turn it or them into a requirement for your well-being,
for your anything,
you create a chain from you to that which you’ve made matter so much.
But as you already know,
attachment isn’t love.
Requirement isn’t love.
Need isn’t love.
In fact,
the stronger the attachment to,
requirement from,
or need for,
anything or anyone,
the less that love is present.
Pure love just IS.
With or without it,
with or without them,
all there is,
is love.
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My work has nothing to do with trust.
There is no ‘building’ it, ‘maintaining’ it, or ‘breaking’ it.
It’s all (and only) about the energy.
When it’s pure, we play.
When it’s not, we don’t.
It’s not, and will never be, about trust.
That’s what people who deny their power need to believe is necessary for them to step fully into truth.
But you don’t need to trust another.
You need to trust yourself.
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She is a Dominatrix in all areas of her life.
With only one exception.
To the energy within,
she freely submits.
The world; she owns.
By IT; she’s owned.
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“And my closest friends experience it, too!”
I’m not surprised.
Of course they do.
You’ve found your people.
Your Trauma Tribe.
Always helping each other to keep it alive.
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