Human Dynamics
Stuck Together (An Essay)
if the only thing keeping you together is your unnatural attachment to one another
(and all attachment is unnatural)
made possible only through the sticky and accumulated shit you both have brought to the relationship table
things like your respective and shared pasts
your so-called traumas
your personal needs and desires
your ongoing focus on yourself and the other
then you’re not yet truly together
because of all that shit in the way
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I'll Never Be Done With Him (An Essay)
Amanda: “Are you DONE done with him?”
I don’t need to be done with him.
Or with anybody or anything else.
I just need to be exactly where I am.
Those people and things will be here as well - or they won’t be.
Who cares.
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No Middle Ground (Mandy Bite)
Don’t meet people where they’re at.
Be where you are.
They’ll either meet you there or not.
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Here's A Tip (Mandy Bite)
Anarchy For The Human (Mandy Bite)
Don’t honour your word.
Honour yourself.
The truth in THIS moment.
Regardless of what you’ve said.
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Sanna On Not Helping Others (A Transcript)
From one of Sanna’s lives:
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How do you turn down a person that clearly needs help just because it’s not a turn on for you to work with them?
How do you justify the lack of the turn on?
How do you say No someone that needs help?
I don’t know if you see how twisted that idea is.
How morphed it actually is.
How backwards the thinking is.
Because when you say No to someone that’s not a turn on, you’re actually helping them.
Saying yes to someone that is not a huge turn on is you taking on someone that doesn’t need your help, doesn’t need you, doesn’t need your art.
It is not the thing that they require in that moment.
And in that decision to surrender, you end up creating a container for something that was never supposed to happen.
Something that is a manufactured, artificial thing that is not an actual experience for anyone.
That is, in fact, wasting your time and their time, all because you don’t trust your turn on and you don’t trust your No.
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Inside Job (Mandy Bite)
Admittedly (Mandy Bite)
Cheating (An Essay)
Cheating isn’t a mistake.
It’s a choice.
It’s a decision to hide and to deceive.
And…
It’s a weak and powerless move.
Because it’s ‘easier’ to sneak around than to muster the strength to be fully transparent with the one you claim you love(d) and ‘risk’ whatever comes from that.
And of course you have your reasons (excuses) not to live in truth.
Everyone does.
To not demonstrate your love for yourself and another by being honest about what already is.
You’re scared.
You have something to ‘lose’.
You don’t want to hurt them.
Whatever the fuck.
Still weak.
Still powerless.
Still not taking full responsibility for yourself and your choices and doing what needs to be done.
Being with others isn’t an issue.
Hiding that you are, is.
And even that isn’t the real ‘issue’.
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The Next Isn't Better (An Essay)
I’d rather do the work within the current dynamic than to swap it out for another (supposedly ‘better’) ride.
The next one won’t be ’better’.
The same work will meet me there, too.
So I do it from exactly where I am and what I find myself in.
The ‘next’ I actually want and crave, arises directly and naturally from that.
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Work It (Mandy Bite)
I don’t work to keep us together.
I work to break things apart.
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Nothing Like The Present (Mandy Bite)
The human needs time.
The being exists outside of it.
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Cunt On Lock (Mandy Bite)
The Only One (Mandy Bite)
Rogue (Mandy Bite)
You use and teach tools and processes because you don’t trust yourself enough to go rogue.
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In Full View (Mandy Bite)
Energy can’t be hidden.
And words can’t hide what IS.
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Opus (Mandy Bite)
Resist The Temptation (Mandy Bite)
If you fill it in, you end up where you don’t belong.
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