Lovers
Amanda: “Are you DONE done with him?”
I don’t need to be done with him.
Or with anybody or anything else.
I just need to be exactly where I am.
Those people and things will be here as well - or they won’t be.
Who cares.
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Don’t meet people where they’re at.
Be where you are.
They’ll either meet you there or not.
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Him: “When we’re together like this, it feels like anything is possible.”
Me: “Because it is.”
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Cheating isn’t a mistake.
It’s a choice.
It’s a decision to hide and to deceive.
And…
It’s a weak and powerless move.
Because it’s ‘easier’ to sneak around than to muster the strength to be fully transparent with the one you claim you love(d) and ‘risk’ whatever comes from that.
And of course you have your reasons (excuses) not to live in truth.
Everyone does.
To not demonstrate your love for yourself and another by being honest about what already is.
You’re scared.
You have something to ‘lose’.
You don’t want to hurt them.
Whatever the fuck.
Still weak.
Still powerless.
Still not taking full responsibility for yourself and your choices and doing what needs to be done.
Being with others isn’t an issue.
Hiding that you are, is.
And even that isn’t the real ‘issue’.
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I’d rather do the work within the current dynamic than to swap it out for another (supposedly ‘better’) ride.
The next one won’t be ’better’.
The same work will meet me there, too.
So I do it from exactly where I am and what I find myself in.
The ‘next’ I actually want and crave, arises directly and naturally from that.
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I don’t work to keep us together.
I work to break things apart.
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“When we are together, we are closer than most couples and that's as real as it gets for me.”
Him, last night.
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If you fill it in, you end up where you don’t belong.
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From one of Sanna’s lives:
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In most cases, people end up divorcing their partner and saying No to the entire relationship, completely unnecessarily.
Instead of making the relationship and everything that matters - not matter, they end up just walking away from the entire thing.
And that does not collapse anything. It does not disrupt anything, because the matter is still there.
And then they will carry that matter to the next relationship.
So they end up saying No to something that IS actually a turn on - when it’s clean.
It’s not the physical thing that’s not a turn on.
It’s the matter that’s in it that prevents it from being a turn on.
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Your willingness and capacity to suffer with and for another, is not love (for yourself or the other).
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From one of Sanna’s lives:
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Viewer: “What to do when your partner is a wimpy fucker?”
Two ways to go about saying No.
One: You actually physically walk away.
Two: (which was my case because I had the knowing that he was the person that was a huge turn for me, he had the potential to be my unmatch and that I actually wanted to be with him; I just didn’t want to be around the energy that he was in) You stay in your own High Feminine in that relationship, no matter what.
You do not surrender to anything.
You do not hold space for him and his wimpy fucker or his swampy feminine.
You do not do anything that is not a turn on.
You play your own game within that relationship, which ends up breaking / collapsing the container, at which point one of two things will happen.
One: He’s going to collapse and physically walk away.
Two: Your High Feminine disrupting his swampy feminine will actually activate his High Masculine and he will rise up to be your unmatch.
But it has to not matter which one it is.
You have to get to the point where you would rather be without him than surrender to the energy, and it has to not matter if he walks away.
So you have to kill the attachment to wanting him to stay.
Otherwise, you will always limit your actions, your expressions, and yourself to match him so that he will not leave, and that creates a container because there’s a limit to how far you’re willing to go, what you’re willing to say, what you’re willing to do.
Viewer: “That’s what I’ve been trying to do and he’s been getting so angry.”
Let him get angry.
Do not hold space or go into the emotion with him.
That’s his swampy feminine getting emotional and collapsing.
You have to see what’s happening in the energetics behind what’s happening in the physical because that is how you will be able to stay unattached to what’s appearing to happen in the physical.
And all that is happening when he’s getting angry is that his swampy feminine is collapsing because his swampy feminine cannot relate to you in that moment because there’s nothing in the High Feminine to relate to.
Which means that he actually has to stand on his own, and the swampy feminine cannot do that.
It’s not possible for her to stand on her own.
She needs a container.
And you’re refusing to provide that container for him and his swampy feminine.
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Standards, boundaries and thresholds are what you create / enforce / adhere to / require when your energy doesn’t speak for itself, when you don’t actually trust yourself, and your choices aren’t sourced from the truth of each moment.
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I blow shit up endlessly.
Because I love you and I love me.
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