I go where it’s the loudest,
just to make it quiet.
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Triggered
His Moves Are Not My Business (An Essay)
Months ago while telling a friend about a moment with the fella that I was a HELL NAW to, she asked if I help a guy to shift the things that I’m not into, or if I just end things because of it.
My response:
I only do what the moment requires of me.
Whatever that may be.
Me making my true move does exactly what needs to be done.
Across the board.
With everyone.
I dropped deal breakers / boundaries / standards long ago.
They aren’t necessary.
And no, I don’t ‘help’ the fella shift his shit because that, too, is unnecessary.
He’s grown.
And his moves are not my business.
He can be however he wants to be.
I’ll make my moves accordingly.
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You Already Know That Ain't It (An Essay)
You can feel when something is true and when it’s laced with something false.
If there is hesitation, confusion, muddiness, defensiveness…
a reaction to something or someone instead of a stand alone work of art…
there’s some cleaning up to do.
On your end.
Not theirs.
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Destruction In The Sheets (Mandy Bite)
If your shit can be fucked with by another making moves, your shit clearly needs a good fucking.
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Trigger-Free (An Essay)
YOU are never triggered.
But you are.
By the endless illusions that ‘threaten’ your fragile misperception of who you think you are.
But YOU are pure, potent, power.
What could possibly threaten that?
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Disturbia (An Essay)
Instead of asking why someone did what they did (because you’re feeling some type of way about what another equally free human chose to do without explaining themselves or consulting you first), ask yourself why it takes so little to disturb you enough to remove the focus from you to them.
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You Don't Need Boundaries (An Essay)
Standards, boundaries and thresholds are what you create / enforce / adhere to / require when your energy doesn’t speak for itself, when you don’t actually trust yourself, and your choices aren’t sourced from the truth of each moment.
Trying to regulate / control your environment by making sure that others know you’re not available / only available for X, Y, Z, and then monitoring and dealing with any ‘transgressions’,
and being rigid on a particular stance that was conditioned or intellectually chosen in the past (which has no bearing on what’s actually true for you in the present without that contrived overlay),
is an attempt to do in the physical what you’re unable to do in the non-physical.
When your energy is intact, you don’t need to ‘manage’ who or what’s around you.
At all.
Built into your complete trust in, and devotion to, yourself and the truth of each moment - is your true standard - which is energetic; not condition-based, and THAT is what’s actually applied to all people and circumstances.
Not with words.
With your energy.
Without even trying because it’s integral to who you are.
From that place, you’re only available for something very specific.
Something you never have to name or explain or even think about.
It just is.
And those who don’t meet that very specific standard in that particular moment, don’t even make it through.
Not because you created a threshold or checked them at the door.
But because there actually IS a threshold.
And those who can’t withstand it,
just turn and walk away.
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Fighting Against (Mandy Bite)
The energy of ‘fighting against’ is more disruptive and detrimental to your system than the thing you’re fighting against.
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Did You Forget You're In Charge? (An Essay)
forgetting that you’re completely in charge of
and responsible for
yourself
your choices
and every piece of your life
inevitably leads to pain, suffering and feelings of (pick your poison):
powerlessness
victimhood
depression
dread
resignation
boredom
fear
anger
apathy
doubt
worry
anxiety
and even more unsavoury vibes
so you can live in that forgetfulness for life (most do)
or…
choose power
choose freedom
choose truth
choose you
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Threshold (Mandy Bite)
Truth creates a level of tension that very few can withstand.
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Jammed (Mandy Bite)
in Energetics, Mandy Bites, Pain, Shit Stack, Triggered
The things that jam your circuits are the portals to yourself.
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Saved By The Sparkles (An Essay)
Someone on the sidewalk screaming to no one in particular and everyone all at once:
“I’m fucking angry and I’m ready! I’m going to kill you all!”
Looks at me:
“Not you. You look beautiful. Have a great day.”
#savedbythesparkles
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The #1 Tip For Living A Great Fucking Life (Mandy Bite)
A Conundrum (Mandy Bite)
The Anger is on You (An Essay)
The extent of your anger, frustration and resentment towards another, is in direct proportion to the extent you’ve compromised, denied, silenced or abandoned yourself ‘for the sake’ of said person / relationship, which was never required, but chosen, for your perceived benefit (and to your actual detriment); not theirs.
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Select Crew (Mandy Bite)
My work is not for everyone.
It’s barely for anyone.
But for those who it was made for,
nothing else will do.
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Trauma Tribe (An Essay)
in Energetics, Human Dynamics, Pain, Triggered, Essays, Convos
“And my closest friends experience it, too!”
I’m not surprised. Of course they do.
You’ve found your people.
Your Trauma Tribe.
Always helping each other to keep it alive.
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Trusting Men (An Essay)
It’s not that you don’t trust men.
It’s that you don’t trust yourself.
You knew something was off.
You ignored that knowing.
And you stayed when you should have left.
That’s on you.
Not men.
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Follow The Leader (Mandy Bite)
You do what you’re told by them.
I do what I’m told by ME.
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